Today, I have come to a new revelation on what a soul mate is and how you will be able to recognize them. You might want to take notes.

I. Individuality
People who have come into a place of wholeness within themselves create a personal code of ethics, values and beliefs — this is the system they live by. These principles define who he/she based on their personal experiences, point of view and continuous education (spiritual development, personal development).

Usually this person takes full responsibility for his/her life and does not look to others to create a sense of personal wholeness. This person independently relies on their value system to assess and make various decisions about the direction and changes needed to be made in their life to grow. Yet they are interdependent networkers (always realizing that she/he must reach out to make sure their personal value system is “up to code.”)

II. Soul Mate:
Humans are created to have free will, therefore, a person “becoming” may encounter several soul mates before an equal connection is made. In the selection process, a man can choose the woman. The woman can choose the man, or it can be a mutual agreement between both parties based on each individual’s willingness to accept the following:

1. The long term vision of the soul mates.
2. The holistic view of weakness and the potential to harness those weaknesses.
3. The holistic view of strengths and the potential to maximize those strengths.
4. The balance of the strengths and weaknesses between each individual.
5. The willingness to fuse value systems, harness strengths, maximize weakeness and weather adversity admist the journey of becoming. (Strength/Weakness balance: For richer or poorer, through sickness and in health.)

In the course of free will, soul mates may connect at various stages of life. If either person has not arrived at a place where at least one of the soul mates are not willing to accept the long term vision and challenge of “growth and becoming together,” someone will leave (the choice is not bias to man/female). The decision of either soul mate to leave is not a personal reflection of the individual “becoming” because humans still are beings of free will and another persons choice would never affect your personal value system (you are still an individual independent of your soul mate.) If one individual has not created a value system or is dependent on the soul mate with a value system — that person without a value system may feel like their chances of having a soul mate again will never come, or that they won’t be/are not worthy enough to have such great “deep love” encounter.

III. Is he/she my soul mate? How will I know?
Soul mates will continue to come into an individuals life until a soul connection is made (a decision to marry). Soul mates are very recognizable and unforgettable. There is something within your soul that bears witness to the magnitude this person has or will have in your life. You should feel very close and comfortable with your soul mate. You may experience having feelings unlike you have ever known and connect with that person on deep level. It also does not matter how long or how short of a time period you have known this person. The impact will still be just as great no matter the course. If the soul mate does not stay for one reason or another, they will leave the other soul mate with a load of lessons to be learned before having to encounter the next soul mate. If the lessons are not learned once the other soul mate enters the picture, the lesson will be much more apparent and “painful” as these lessons are meant to encourage personal, spiritual growth and change. Most people will rebel and stray away from learning the lesson and decide to “take easy classes” to avoid the pain of enduring the “harder test.”

Conclusion
Your soul mate(s) come to prepare, carry and weather the storm of your “becoming and being: you.” You must also remember that you play the equal role in their lives. Before trying to search out a soul mate, make sure your “I am ready for a soul mate” check list is covered.

• 1. I have a set of principles and a value system that I live by.
• 2. I accept personal responsibility for my own actions, life, goals and aspiration (self-motivated.)
• 3. I am on an individual journey of becoming or being — independent of my soul mate.
• 4. I am willing to endure the lessons my soul mate is going to teach me.
• 5. I am willing to grow with my soul mate admist his/her strengths, weaknesses, personal value system admist my personal journey of becoming.
• 6. I have assessed and learned from past lessons of my previous soul mates and I am ready and open to accepting more lessons through a mutual soul connection. (Bonus).

It is exciting to aspire to be an original, it’s another thing to become authentically you.

Most are stunned when they find that only 1% of the total world population is interested in personal growth, self evaluation and moving forward. That means 99% of the rest of the world is ONLY interested in living life in a vacuum. What does that mean for professional motivators? Hmmmm.. I found that a vast majority of the human race really wants to break out of their shell and become who they are destined to be. Yet, they use  excuses to confine themselves to fear of the unknown. So, in essence, they will die never knowing what their greatest potential was.

You make the difference in your life when you decide that you are in control of you, your mind, your heart and your destiny. Do not allow people to control who you are destined to be — you are letting the leader within you die. Take a stand for you. Start today by:

1. Reflecting

2. Understanding

3. Applying Your Understanding

4. Taking Action

The only thing you have to loose is a life fulfilled.

Are you ready to fly?

You are in the midst of a great journey, but you have to be careful who you travel with. People come in and out of our lives for appointed times and seasons. The most important question you must ask yourself is: Who am I flocking with? Birds are flocking all the time — flowing in different directions of the sun. Know your destination. You might have to fly alone. You might have to leave your current flock behind. No matter the course fly high.

We hate rejection because it hurts.

When we are rejected we feel as though everything we have worked for or accomplished is for nothing. We cower in our shells and guard our hearts. In these moments , we forget that time is required to heal all wounds. If you have been rejected, are feeling rejected or can see a rejection coming in the near future — embrace it — learn from it and allow the pain to push you into positive action.

Let’s get over it together.

1. Recognize the rejection.

2. Process the hurt.

3. Record the lesson.

4. Remind yourself that you were DELAYED, but NOT denied.

5. Refocus the energy to work in your favor.

We run away from hurt, because it is a feeling that leaves one moaning in hopelessness, desolation and depression.

Yet, if we never face the pain life causes us we will never grow. A friend recently asked how long is the proper time to waddle in your pain. My answer was simply: as long as it takes. You won’t get over heartbreak in a day. You won’t get over loosing a loved one in three months. You won’t pop back into your “old-self” after your children grow up and leave for college. These are death processes. They come to remind us that in the midst of joy — their is pain and gain. We never walk away from painful experiences without a battle scar. Let your battle scar become your new mark of victory. It’s okay — just let it hurt.

The most important person in the world is you. Someone will always want 100% of your attention, but it is more advantageous for you to take care of you first. Though the thought might seem a bit selfish, you will find that you have more energy to take care of others. Get back to one today. Get back to you.

We run the hills trying to find a pool of happiness that will erase life lessons we refuse to face.

In the most frustrating times of our life there is peace. Creating a balance within oneself is the hardest trial we must face. Yet, if we embrace what is ultimately ours — then we can come to true terms with the person we are meant to be. Stop running around trying to find solace in the arms of other men — if in fact you have not found that peace within yourself. Find true peace today — its within you.

We all have some frustrations in life; the things that bring us our pain or our problems, our feelings of pressure or powerlessness. They can drag us down and submerge us. And they will, until we recognize them as the source of our inner strength, our creativity and our potential to make something of them.

When I look at people like Helen Keller and Christopher Reeves, I am astounded how the human spirit is able to overcome seemingly impossible disabilities and transform them into something quite amazing. Reeves, initially a mediocre actor with a good physique, was not really Superman, but a lucky break made him so. Then his accident brought a different kind of break and he emerged as a real live hero for all disabled people.

Through Inner Balancing, we show how to learn from and use our frustrations in a way that helps us to grow into the people we can really be. I know that we all have potential, because I have never met anyone who has no frustration.

So when you look at your frustration, don’t ask why you have it, or how can you make it go away. Ask what it means to you and what you can do with it. That way we can turn fear into courage, terror into hope, problems into opportunities. And war into peace.

In Peace and Love

Warren Redman

I am enjoying the journey. This summer I have had a great opportunity to just live and learn. The most important lesson one will ever learn it to never stop growing. There are a series of questions one must ask him self when learning how to branch out and take life by the horns.

• 1. What am I ready to do?
• 2. How can I accomplish this goal with the resources I have?
• 3. Am I afraid to ask for what I want?
• 4. How many shoulda, coulda, woulda’s am I going to recite before I actually do something about my life?
• 5. How much time have I already wasted?

Life is fleeting. You can not remember what happened to you 10 years ago ..because the intricate details of that time period is completely gone. The moments may have been captured by memory, pictures or reminiscing — but in essence they are gone.

Life changes at the drop of a dime. This summer, I have made a conscious effort to spread out. I created a Singles group on my college alumni page..and it has been very successful. It started off with just me…now there are 71 members and growing daily…. and within 3 weeks it has become the top rated club on the alumni forum. It is good to learn from others …it minimizes the mistakes you would potentially make in the future…well you could at lease have a heads up.

Spread out ….it can only help the growth within.

People are looking for mentors. Professional mentors. Idea development mentors. Personal development mentors. …and more.

While on vacation, I have had a chance to talk to many of my friends, family members, associates and business partners and they are all looking for a new direction…a new purpose…a new path in life. Many people are coming into a pure understanding of themselves and where they would like to go in life. Yet, they attract mentors of the past — their growth is therefore stunted. A fresh breed of mentors who are ready to take serious minded professionals to the next level …are in HIGH demand now. Any takers?