How to Tame A Scattered Brain
Taming the Scatter Brain
“Being a bit scattered tends to be a trait of highly imaginative people.”
“Faith helps to focus the mind. Having a broad mind makes one scatterbrained and mentally tossed from one new fad to another without direction and without solid ground.”
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Learning how to focus can sometimes be difficult if your mind is in 15 different places at one time. One thing we can all benefit from is learning new ways to stay focused and accomplish our goals. Take a second and jot down these key points on steps to eliminate the scatter brain syndrome.
- Have a Specific Plan for Each Day
- Create Small To-Do List 3 to 4 Specific Tasks
Minimize Distractions - If the phone rings, don’t answer it, unless it is an important phone call.
- Save television and internet surfing as rewards for completing the tasks you want to do.
- Stop Multi-tasking
- Multi-tasking keeps your brain going in too many directions.
- Take Breaks
- During your five to ten minute breaks, spend some time meditating and clearing your mind.
- Minimize Stress
- The two best natural antidotes to stress are sleep and exercise.
- Keep an Accomplishment Journal
- An accomplishment journal helps you focus on what you did do, instead of what you didn’t.
Information and Resource from this article was partly used by:
Life Coach Lori Radun, Scatter Brain Syndrome
Not About Me!
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My journey is not about me. I have experienced it. I have lived it. I have endured it. All of these statements hold truth to them, yet today I came to the reality that my life is greater than me. I am one of millions of people on this earth who have endured countless trials. The truth is we all suffer. Yet, our depth of suffering must never be used to highlight our vainglory. Instead, it must shared and imparted to those who NEED to believe in something greater than their circumstances.
Everyday, God is creatively finding ways to show is greatness among mankind. We are a simpleminded people and at times we don’t get the hint the first time around. We get inspired. A voice within tells us to write the book – do the seminar – talk to the CEO at that major company. Something within us freezes. We hold back out of fear — mentally asking ourselves sabotagging questions: Am I good enough? Am I prepared enough? Am I qualified enough? Do I have what it takes to make it? When you take the spotlight off of you — a human being that is simply created to be imperfect — “out of no where” God throws His hands in the mix and things turn out much better than anticipated and you are past where you need to be.
Get past yourself! Know that whatever you are doing in this moment is meant to happen and there are people nationwide who are going to be impacted by the choices you make today. Decide to become a person who is focused on using your life to show how extraordinary the God of the Universe can be. Don’t get stuck in technicalities and analysis paralysis. Say to yourself today — it’s not about me! Yet, it is all about me….Because You Can (Do all things with God)!
Lead
You can not lead if you do not follow. When you lead others will follow. Now, be the leader you would follow.
Love and Leadership
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Over the past couple of days, I have been wresting with my worth. I wondered how I could keep personal boundaries in place to love someone wholeheartedly from the level I used to be at, yet reject love from other who are on a level I want to attain. I cried profusely asking God to give me understanding of the reason I felt so stuck. It was in the midst of my tears that I realized I got a promotion.
When we look at the organization of life and we understand there are people who do and people who do, then one can fathom the invisible hierarchical chain of command and place of position of its people. When you choose to remain in a level of complacency, you are choosing within the organization of life to be just an employee. Not a supervisor! Not a manager! Not the CEO — just a punch in – punch out employee. A person paid just enough to make it. Yet, when one positions themselves for greater than their current best they push for something more than what they are getting. Mediocre is not good enough! One paycheck to the next is not good enough! Long nights at the office become timeless. Your focus and concentration is in getting to the next level and moving beyond sweeping the floors and filling up French fry vats.
Positioning yourself to achieve rank in the organization of life means consciously moving past the employee mentality and pushing toward the challenge of leading others toward the greatness you have already conquered. In the same rite, practicing and conquering tools to move you to upper level management and a higher level of responsibility. If you find yourself saying, “I’m not where I used to be and I have no desire to go back to that place. Yet, I’m not where I want to be and I know there is more I have to do.” I now bid you a hearty congratulation – you too have been promoted!
While position and worth is key, my tears led me to a greater understanding of love in leadership. When we pour love into the lives of people who are where we used to be — by leading them to where we are – love through appreciation is given. We, who have endured levels of personal challenge through change, in turn gain a higher value of self love and love for those who have paved the way for our success. No matter the course, you have a choice.
I encourage you to choose to be more than what you are today. The world needs more people who will decide to be the CEO’s of their life. Start today, by becoming the leader you would follow. Try:
• Surrounding yourself with people who challenge your character.
• Evaluate where you are and where you want to be.
• Look into your life and find ways to teach what you have learned and/or experienced.
• Do more of the things you loathe, so you can find the beauty in them.
Don’t let your life wither without a trace. Get promoted today…Because You Can!
Patience
We hate to wait for the unexpected, because we are to busy worrying about what to expect. – Sherita Searcy
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Develop Persistent Patience…Because You Can!
We hate to wait for the unexpected, because we are do busy worrying about what to expect.
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It’s duck mating season and for the past week, I have been watching habits of these beautiful animals and it reminded me of persistent patience. Every night I walk into work, I can expect to see a mother duck quietly sitting still on a nest full of eggs — keeping a watchful eye on predators that would dare interrupt the birthing process of her young. Day and night, these ducks are wholeheartedly centered on one purpose – to bring more “duck” life into the world. Amazing!
Persistent patience is simply the act of putting first things first and actively working toward our visions through being aggressively persistent yet patient enough to see the process through to its natural end. If we took the attitude of the mother duck, and patiently waited and worked to “warm our nest eggs,” I wonder what powerful things we could accomplish. To often we get caught in our personal worlds of selfishness in working, paying bills, taking care of the kids, socializing, etc., that we rarely take time to remember that the very best things in life are worth waiting for.
We grow impatiently daily because:
- 1. Our environment, mentality and habits dictates our daily behavior.
- 2. We can not predict what will happen if we are not aggressively working on a quick solution to end our trial.
Yet in persistent patience we are able to accomplish:
- 1. Improved communication with others.
- 2. Better planning and organization.
- 3. An opportunity to venture into self discovery and personal development.
- 4. An ability to empower others and empower ourselves.
The mother duck waits patiently day in and day out for her ducklings to come into the world. In patience, she knows the agony of waiting in the unexpected is insignificant compared to the joy she will experience of seeing the fruit of her work.
Be like the mother duck … Develop Persistent Patience…Because You Can!
Lose Control…Because You Can!
We are afraid to die, because we are afraid to loose control.
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Today, I was talking to a co-worker who recounted memories of working as a volunteer in the Intensive Care Unit at Cleveland Clinic. She detailed fond times she had with patients as they weathered through debilitating diseases and other death threatening illnesses. “The hardest part was watching them take their last breath,” she said. Why? I asked. She continued, “they were mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically tired, but they didn’t want to die because they were to busy trying to fight for something they had no control over – the care and security of their loved ones.”
To often the urge to maintain control compresses our ability to experience true freedom. Everyday, we are given an opportunity to surrender ourselves to faith and believe in something we don’t have the ability to control. Many times we will venture into our comfort zone and block out the opportunity to loose control because there is no way for us to predict what is going to happen next. There are several key factors that contribute to the reasons why we won’t release ourselves to faith in the unknown.
- We believe God is not big enough to handle the finite details of our life.
- We believe maintaining a sense of control will provide a level of protection and safety.
- We resist change at all cost, because it disrupts our world and the way we view life.
- Losing control may reveal our true identity.
We were created as creatures of free will, so we have the ability to choose if we will surrender and let go, or remain stuck in a boxed comfort zone. We like our comfort, and often many will opt to try and control the world around them and everyone attached to that world – instead of letting go. Holding on means:
- Staying where you are and repeatedly doing things you can’t stand to make yourself feel “comfortable.”
- Settling for less than you deserve.
- Sitting back and watching other people enjoy what you dream about.
- Putting yourself through insane amounts of stress through crying and worrying, due to the inability to predict an outcome for your circumstances.
We are not physically dead, but everyday we become just like the ICU patient at Cleveland Clinic who knows at one point they will have to surrender to something greater than themselves. Let go! Practice the art of releasing. Sing: Hakuna Matata (No Worries For The Rest Of Your Days). No matter what you do – surrender your thoughts, actions and will to faith.
Choose to lose control so you can experience the freedom of life…Because You Can!
Listen to Hakuna Matata!
Brain Nuggets…
For so long I wished I could be someone else until I found out it was cool to be me.
People don’t like change because it disrupts their lazy streak. You mean I have work to do ….darn it!
The more effort you put in a project the more you will be able to see the reflection of your perfected ability.
You never depart from who you are ..it is just departmentalized until you decide to get it together.
Create Synergy and Attract Energy…Because You Can! Workshop
Hi Everyone!
I am excited to send you news about Monday’s workshop. It has been renamed from: I’m Launching: Now What? Part 2 (Synergy and Energy) to Create Synergy and Attract Energy…Because You Can!
The workshop will cover key information you need to know in learning how to branch out and network with other people who are looking for what you have to offer. Also, we will talk about how opening yourself up for general conversation will lead to a better understanding of your cause and ways you can stay inspired by being around like minded people.
The teleworkshop will be held Monday, April 20th at 8 p.m. est. Call: 641-715-3635 Access Code: 1052493. Then press the # key.
See you there!
Practice Perfection…Because You Can
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I was afraid to swim, because I was afraid to drown.
Before starting my normal routine this morning, I decided to go swimming at the YMCA. I figured since I am in the rebirth stage of my life — I would be able to claim sure victory over my greatest fear. I jumped in the water and immediately begin to panic. Frustrated, I waded in the water for two minutes before a fellow lap swimmer came by and said, “Take your time and breathe.” She further suggested I swim the short length of the pool before trying to conquer the deep end. “If you jump off in the deep end you are going to have to do something!” she said. Whoa! The statement hit me like a ton of bricks. After a few unsuccessful turned successful attempts at swimming laps in the shorter width of the pool, the life guard came by and suggested I sign up for beginner swimming lessons. “You won’t fear the water if you know how to navigate the waves,” she said.
We only fear what we have not perfected. Perfection in this sense is doing something repeatedly until it becomes a part of who you are. There are three core reasons why we fail at achieving personal perfection:
- We are afraid of what we will discover about our own human potential.
- We become frustrated in the practice process and give up before perfection is achieved.
- We believe false thoughts of inadequacy and incapability.
Practicing perfection means you have to:
- Sacrifice your comfort zone.
- Do something you likely won’t enjoy over and over and over again.
- Fighting thoughts that would make you believe you don’t have what it takes to achieve personal perfection.
- Wholeheartedly believe in your human and personal potential.
- Combat periods of frustration with insurmountable faith in your personal ability.
I start swimming lessons next week. I am not scared of drowning – my greater challenge is in the journey I will experience in seeing myself overcome a fear that has for too long held me in captivity.
Today, dare to practice perfection…Because You Can!
Time to Live
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Today is my rebirthday!
To know life one must die first.
In the course of my cocoon experience I learned many lessons.
- 1. Fear and Faith are the driving forces of life.
- 2. Hate is only limited to the perceptions you have of your own ability.
- 3. There are people who do and don’t. Everyday you have a choice to go either way.
- 4. People need what you have to offer if you are willing to offer it.
- 5. Not everyone will get you and that is okay.
- 6. Live life to the fullest because you can.
- 7. Everyone has a bad day, month and year — no one has a bad life even if it seems to be that way.
- 8. Life is a roller coaster you must ride. You can decide to go with your eyes open or shut — no matter what you are going.
- 9. Positive energy goes a long way. Having a spiritual foundation gets you even further.
- 10. Everything boils down to oneness and God, so we might as well accept it.
The most difficult feat I encountered in my rebirth experience is getting to the bottom of my no. I accepted the fact that if no one in the entire universe wanted to hear what I had to say — that I would still say it with the same vigor and tenacity as having 100,000 people logged in and subscribing to my blog. Our greatest fear lies in our greatest lack of faith. We are scared of what we can’t see — so we create walls around our life to protect us from the things we think we can control. None of us are in control — so in essence we are driving ourselves insane. Our life is already written and everything that did, was and will happen was solidified before any of us came into this crazy world.
Find freedom in just letting go. Dare yourself to be the person you want to be. Try yourself on for size and you may even find that you fit into the person you want to so wholeheartedly be. The bottom line is we are here and we can choose to be negative or positive. There is no wrong and right answer to life …it just is. We can lead or follow. We can lift or lean. We can do or don’t. Life will still go on with or with you participating.
Now my time is centered in getting in where I fit in and flowing wholeheartedly in that vein. I have added new elements to sheritasearcy.com:
1. The Resource Room – This page will provide educational and tool-based resources you can use to advance your knowledge and other services that will enhance your causes.
2. The Lean Movement – This page will provide a list of inspirational/motivational music to link to when the mood hits.
3. Change Now – This page is an educational resource in Life Coaching and learning how to move past yourself to be who you are called to be.
4….Because I can. This is a fun and easy way to learn what you are capable of doing instead of focusing on negativity. Instructions: Type in what you are doing right now, have done in the past or will do in the future and add …Because I Can… at the end.
Fun times. Let’s grow.
Social Disconnect
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I’m gelling. Little by little my emergence is becoming more apparent. Behind the walls of my life lies a little girl that wants to be heard. Yet, there also stands an experienced woman armed with love ready to spread a message that is promised to change lives across the globe. In the mist of this re-emergent process, I realize my life has nothing to do with me. My trials are not my own. They are to be shared for the co-operative healing that will take place in the lives of millions as a result of my fighting effort to emerge, share and be used as a light.
We fight daily to survive life, yet we never live until our life impacts and heals someone else. We are made to be transparently interdependent — depending on our Creator for guidance while utilizing human resources to navigate through this emotional roller coaster we call life. We are called to educate. We are called to give. We are called to share. Yet, in the midst of this dynamic lies an even greater disparity — social exclusion and social isolation. We are in essence dying on the vine of life by shielding our true selves and allowing the person we are meant to be remain locked in a cell of delusional pain. Pain is not designed to harbor, but be expressed for individual and collective growth. If I were the only person in the world who experienced a death, while the rest of the world only experiences moments of life and happiness — I would in essence die. On the undercurrent, we are all one — experiencing similar things at random moments in time — and on different levels. Here’s the breakdown — we harbor the desire to be transparent, turn into our circumstances and internally/emotionally and mentally die. In essence, no growth is achieved for me or you. Therefore, we are left believing that our trials are unique and we fall into a demented mindset that cultivates thoughts that says, “Nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen.” (more…)
Wanted: 100% Authentic Relationships
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“I see your true colors shining through, so don’t be afraid to let them show, your true colors are beautiful.” True Colors, Phil Collins. Stop hiding behind closed doors. Freedom comes through social inclusion and transparency.
Breakdown to Breakthrough
“If cried from your gut last night, prepare to pop champagne bottles in the morning.”
Do or Don’t
“There are people who don’t. There are people who do. Ask yourself which person am I.”
Lessons
“Life lessons will continue to make a way into your life until get and act on its point.”
“Advance Your Life” Workshop Series
Overcoming the “Brick Wall” of Launching & I’m Launching: Now What?
If you are sitting on your dream, a major decision, an unfinished project and you can’t find a way to get past the “brick wall” — you are not alone. There is help if you want it! If you’re ready to stop being a prisoner to sabotaging excuses and want to start making progress in your life — or if you are just curious — then join this free call.
On Tuesday, March 24th, Life Coach and Motivator, Sherita Searcy will address barriers that hold you back from launching, key factors that are needed to break down the wall and things you can begin to do about it immediately!
Need your questions answered? Submit to sheritasearcy@yahoo.com before the call, or get your questions answered during the call.
Workshop Information:
I’m Launching: Now What?
Time/Date: 8 p.m. Eastern Standard Time, Monday, April 06, 2009
Call: 641-715-3494 Access Code: 1052493. Then press the # key.
Overcoming the “Brick Wall” of Launching (Encore Presentation)
Time/Date: 8 p.m. Eastern Standard Time, Monday, April 13, 2009
Call: 641-715-3494 Access Code: 1052493. Then press the # key.
Workshop Praise
“Sherita, I just wanted you to know that I really enjoyed the workshop last night. I got so much out of it, I wrote about 3 1/2 pages of notes. My one step/goal is to FINISH my website www.yellowrosepc.com. You are excellent at what you do – it has truly blessed me.” LaToya Ashley, VA
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“You are fabulous and totally gifted. That was the bomb! (The workshop was) very encouraging!” Tracy Palmer Dillingham, OH
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(The workshop) was very insightful and clear. I took a lot of notes and I will be sure to pin your next workshop in my calendar.” Tiffanee Johnson, NY, CEO Image Revealer
The Emergence
The Re-Birthing of Sherita Searcy is Coming… April 15, 2009
The Emergence
I have been in a “cocoon” like state since September 2008. I stopped writing. I stopped reaching out. I stopped connecting. I stopped advising. I just stopped! Every so often, I felt like I needed to re-connect, reach out and write an occasional Blog or note to let everyone know I was doing okay, but I still was not ready to be revealed.
In this period of death, I did not realize I would be going through a spiritual, relational, mental and physical transformation process that would change the very essence of my being. I found the leader in me. I found the woman in me. I found the mother in me. I found the friend in me. I found the spirit in me. I found Sherita Searcy.
In the cocoon, I learned many things and soon they will be shared with you. I am excited about the journey we will embark on together. This re-emergence is not just about me, I know your life will be affected as well. Thank you for the times we shared. I look forward to the new future we will create together. It’s our time.
Truly,
Sherita Searcy
Fill Up Your Tank: Cultivating Your Value System
Imagine being on a major intersection and your car slowly but surely slows as you watch the gauge on your gas tank fall below E. You are out of gas and stuck on the side of the road. Frantically, you call AAA knowing they have the assistance you need to get back on the road again. After waiting for two hours, the AAA driver pulls up to the back of your car, gets out, and strolls to the side of your window. You excitingly open the door and pop your gas tank cap — ready to receive a fill up. Yet in the midst of your sigh of relief, you find that the AAA man just ran out of gas after not filling up from morning runs. Now both of you are stuck! At this point, feelings of frustration and deep seeded worry fill your mind as you become more emotionally dejected now than when you scooted your gasless car to the side of the road.
This story is all too common for many who opt not to fill up the gas tank of their lives by waiting for someone else to validate their worth. When you don’t invest in your own needs, wants and desires you’re emotional, spiritual, mental and physical “gas tanks” will be empty. Grasping this notion can be a very uneasy reality for people who are not accustomed to doing things for themselves before investing in the lives of others. Understand that you can only do for your neighbor what you have already done for yourself. If you have not poured into your own value system by not reading, working out, eating healthy, understanding yourself (or whatever your filling process looks like) – then one must ask, “What am I really pouring into your life?”
In the past, I would take on projects for others in a heartbeat. I would spend endless hours pouring my heart, soul, money and time into doing what I thought they wanted me to do. I believed that if I did unto others they would pour an equal measure of greatness back into my life by validating the work I did for them. Often times that pat on the back, congratulations or job well done rarely or never came. In those moments, I felt used, abused and victimized. In my mind and actions, I sought revenge. My behavior lead to broken friendships and bad business deals.
I realized the need to refuel my life with a passion that would personally sustain me in the midst of evaluating myself in prayer. I accepted my call to serve under the agreement that I would first serve myself – allowing the overflow of my personal passion to influence and change the lives of others. If the validation of my value system did not come from those whom I served – it is okay, because my emotional tank is filled to the brim. I am a woman of value. I am a person of standard who possess many unique gifts, talents and skills. I am the captain of my ship and when you get on it is going to be a great ride.
I encourage you to take time to fill up the gas tank of your life by fueling your personal passions before seeking to serve others. Be you first! See what it feels like to take hold of your life and cultivate the person you are. In those moments, watch how your passion will positively impact the lives of others. As you grow, they will grow. Maybe the next time you see some one “emotionally stuck on the side of the road,” you will be able to pull over and have enough gas to carry you and them back into the arms of safety.
Music Inspiration
Love — No Limit
Try to love with no limit — it is life changing and possible.
I am at rest and I no longer struggle with the concept of love, yet its intricate nature continues to boggle me. We love our friends. We love our family. We love our children. We love our soul mates. We love our co-workers and bosses (well sometimes). We love to do things we have a passion for. With love surrounding us at every turn, why do we put a limit on something that is indefinately limitless.
Recently, I had a friend whom I loved very dearly. Both professional and personal interactions were at its best with this person and I believed the connection would last a lifetime. After a small disagreement, the bond of love and friendship I believed would last a lifetime ended in a simple whimper. In that moment, I realized that pain was love and love was pain. To truly experience love with no limit, we have to open ourselves to vunerablities that would make us face reality and embrace the truth. The truth is — someone we love will leave us, whether in natural separation or death. In that mindset, when we gravitate to the concept that true love is endless and it is manifested everytime you smile, say thank you, hold your lover’s hand, send flowers to a grieving friend, etc …we are giving love with no limit. We are realizing that love will be defined not by what someone did for us, but in the moments we shared and the lessons we learned.
Life is unfolding in front of our eyes. Grab onto the gift that is given to you everyday — yourself and the person in your life who loves you with no limit. Now in that thought …even God is smiling.
Just Raw Honesty
I have been hibernating. I have been running away from myself trying to find an excuse not to be me. For the last several months I have contemplated so many things. Should I continue to write? Do I have an audience? Does what I do matter? All of these self defeating thoughts consumed my mind for months and they kept me in a hub of relational despair. I disconnected wanting to find a reason to do me all over again …the right way. I soul searched and found out that the core of me was rotten and needed serious repair. I saw the hidden spaces of my life where people left or I kicked them (people in my life) to the curb. A more recent relationship disconnect left me devestated and wondering whether I had the guts to resurface back into the face of life.
Friends, we go through seasons of our lives where things simply don’t make sense. The crazy thing about life is that we can not correct what we are not conscious of. When the truth surfaces one must have a safety net to fall back on — or you will fall out of life. In raw honesty, I dropped out of life because I did not know who I was and what I really wanted to offer the world. It took me three months just to write that. Smiling. No matter the course, life is created with twist and turns designed to bring you to a path of greatness. The beautiful element of this revelation is that you have the power to choose. Today, I choose to wake up from my hibernation, write and just deliver raw honesty. Thank you.
Soul Mates: The Path to Becoming and Being
Today, I have come to a new revelation on what a soul mate is and how you will be able to recognize them. You might want to take notes.
I. Individuality
People who have come into a place of wholeness within themselves create a personal code of ethics, values and beliefs — this is the system they live by. These principles define who he/she based on their personal experiences, point of view and continuous education (spiritual development, personal development).
Usually this person takes full responsibility for his/her life and does not look to others to create a sense of personal wholeness. This person independently relies on their value system to assess and make various decisions about the direction and changes needed to be made in their life to grow. Yet they are interdependent networkers (always realizing that she/he must reach out to make sure their personal value system is “up to code.”)
II. Soul Mate:
Humans are created to have free will, therefore, a person “becoming” may encounter several soul mates before an equal connection is made. In the selection process, a man can choose the woman. The woman can choose the man, or it can be a mutual agreement between both parties based on each individual’s willingness to accept the following:
1. The long term vision of the soul mates.
2. The holistic view of weakness and the potential to harness those weaknesses.
3. The holistic view of strengths and the potential to maximize those strengths.
4. The balance of the strengths and weaknesses between each individual.
5. The willingness to fuse value systems, harness strengths, maximize weakeness and weather adversity admist the journey of becoming. (Strength/Weakness balance: For richer or poorer, through sickness and in health.)
In the course of free will, soul mates may connect at various stages of life. If either person has not arrived at a place where at least one of the soul mates are not willing to accept the long term vision and challenge of “growth and becoming together,” someone will leave (the choice is not bias to man/female). The decision of either soul mate to leave is not a personal reflection of the individual “becoming” because humans still are beings of free will and another persons choice would never affect your personal value system (you are still an individual independent of your soul mate.) If one individual has not created a value system or is dependent on the soul mate with a value system — that person without a value system may feel like their chances of having a soul mate again will never come, or that they won’t be/are not worthy enough to have such great “deep love” encounter.
III. Is he/she my soul mate? How will I know?
Soul mates will continue to come into an individuals life until a soul connection is made (a decision to marry). Soul mates are very recognizable and unforgettable. There is something within your soul that bears witness to the magnitude this person has or will have in your life. You should feel very close and comfortable with your soul mate. You may experience having feelings unlike you have ever known and connect with that person on deep level. It also does not matter how long or how short of a time period you have known this person. The impact will still be just as great no matter the course. If the soul mate does not stay for one reason or another, they will leave the other soul mate with a load of lessons to be learned before having to encounter the next soul mate. If the lessons are not learned once the other soul mate enters the picture, the lesson will be much more apparent and “painful” as these lessons are meant to encourage personal, spiritual growth and change. Most people will rebel and stray away from learning the lesson and decide to “take easy classes” to avoid the pain of enduring the “harder test.”
Conclusion
Your soul mate(s) come to prepare, carry and weather the storm of your “becoming and being: you.” You must also remember that you play the equal role in their lives. Before trying to search out a soul mate, make sure your “I am ready for a soul mate” check list is covered.
- 1. I have a set of principles and a value system that I live by.
- 2. I accept personal responsibility for my own actions, life, goals and aspiration (self-motivated.)
- 3. I am on an individual journey of becoming or being — independent of my soul mate.
- 4. I am willing to endure the lessons my soul mate is going to teach me.
- 5. I am willing to grow with my soul mate admist his/her strengths, weaknesses, personal value system admist my personal journey of becoming.
- 6. I have assessed and learned from past lessons of my previous soul mates and I am ready and open to accepting more lessons through a mutual soul connection. (Bonus).
The Difference
It is exciting to aspire to be an original, it’s another thing to become authentically you.
Most are stunned when they find that only 1% of the total world population is interested in personal growth, self evaluation and moving forward. That means 99% of the rest of the world is ONLY interested in living life in a vacuum. What does that mean for professional motivators? Hmmmm.. I found that a vast majority of the human race really wants to break out of their shell and become who they are destined to be. Yet, they use excuses to confine themselves to fear of the unknown. So, in essence, they will die never knowing what their greatest potential was.
You make the difference in your life when you decide that you are in control of you, your mind, your heart and your destiny. Do not allow people to control who you are destined to be — you are letting the leader within you die. Take a stand for you. Start today by:
1. Reflecting
2. Understanding
3. Applying Your Understanding
4. Taking Action
The only thing you have to loose is a life fulfilled.
Birds Are Flocking
Are you ready to fly?
You are in the midst of a great journey, but you have to be careful who you travel with. People come in and out of our lives for appointed times and seasons. The most important question you must ask yourself is: Who am I flocking with? Birds are flocking all the time — flowing in different directions of the sun. Know your destination. You might have to fly alone. You might have to leave your current flock behind. No matter the course fly high.
