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”The DISEASE To PLEASE: The Cause & The Cure” with Co-Host Vyta The Diva, and Special Guest, Life Coach Sherita Searcy. Monday, December 12th, at 7pm EST, “Center Stage with Nikki G.” WLUV Radio, click on blogtalkradio.com/wluvradio, or call in to 646-595-2083. Don’t Miss It!
How to Be A Boss
Everyone believes they have the perfect solution for you to move into the hub of your purpose. People can ONLY influence..YOU decide what your purpose is going to look like. Here are some quick tips to consider when moving toward the process of just being YOU!
1. Don’t let someone else tell you what your process should look like! Hear their opinion, line it up with (God’s)truth and YOU decide what works best for YOU!
2. Dig into yourself! Ask yourself everyday: What do I want from this season of my life? Then…day by day Ease Into that person! Writing it down is helpful.. but acting in it is even better!
3. Understand where you are going first! Develop a passion for it and then dig in!
4. Clean up your past and work on your future.
5. Connect with like-minds but don’t elevate them higher or lower than yourself!
6. Listen to the person within you who KEEPS popping up! She/He isn’t going anywhere! Become them!
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Planning & Developing!
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Proactive vs. Reactive
We live our lives on the cusp of fate…waiting for someone / something to ruffle our feathers! Yet the opportunity always exists for us to gain an edge and be on top of our game. For this gift we will give up something… the comfort of relaxation.
I’ve lived a great portion of my life waiting for something spontaneous to happen! “Will I get a job today?” “Will I be picked next on the soccer team? Will he choose me to be his wife? While life was passing me by, I realize the consequence of JUST being reactive!
Yesterday, I shared with a friend that I missed watching “Amen” The 1986 sitcom was centered around a church deacon, Deacon Fry (Sherman Hemsley) , his daughter, Thelma (Ana Marie Horsford) and Rev. Gregory (Clifton Davis).
What stood out to me most about the show was Thelma Fry’s undying pursuit and interest in Rev. Gregory. Though he denied her request many, many, many times she did not give up! After many seasons of denial, Rev. Gregory could not deny that Thelma was going to be a strong force in his life — no matter what and her love and pursuit of him would not cease. She was proactive. She GOT what she wanted…no matter how long it took!
In doing a bit of research, I found nearly 70% of the world population is reactive, while 30% of the population is proactive!
Pro-Active vs. Re-Active E-How author Grant McKenzie, defines the action of proactivity as planning ahead and anticipating problems. Whereas, being reactive means waiting for problems to appear before addressing them. She outlined the pros & cons of each.
PROS :”Being proactive can help eliminate problems before they appear and can make execution of your tasks more efficient. Being reactive can simplify the planning process, allowing you to act faster.” CONS: “Being proactive lengthens the planning process and can lead to overplanning as all potential options are analyzed. Being reactive can lead to unforeseen problems in execution that may require extensive time and effort to solve or correct.”
Most experts believe and teach the practice of balancing both worlds, “the importance of being proactive while maintaining a willingness to act. A balance of proper planning and effective execution is required for success.”
I also came across a great article on HubPages that talked about this subject from a biblical perspective. The author discusses his personal life and actions in relation to the change he had to undergo in order to be proactive! It is NOT an easy process! Believe me! He also shared about the extensive lengths God has gone to make sure we get the message! Prophets, Christ, His Word, Messengers (like us!) and spiritual confirmation. Amazing!
At the end of the day, you can’t plan for everything, but if you create a workable plan that gives structure and direction, while also leaving room for life’s surprises …things just might turn out okay!
Are you ready to do what it takes to be proactive (with a reactive backup) …today?
Sherita
The 90/10 Rule: Build Your Character
We have no problem moving through life in our own lane, just as long as we do not have to mesh too long with other people. Yet the blow of reality says, we ARE NOT created alone and our existence relies on the interaction of others.” When we interact with others…they meet our character! If our characters are not in alignment …we part ways until the developmental stages of our character is built on the same playing field!
Have you ever seen a makeover show? Do you remember how vastly different the person looked, acted and walked before the make over? Sure you do! Their character said, “I’m unattractive, unavailable, have low self esteem, and I don’t care.”
Nearly 45 minutes into the show, the person begins to shed the old existence… trading it in for a different look…a different life. The big reveal happens! They are stunningly beautiful, elegant and graceful! In those moments they traded one character for the next!
A friend of mine shared some great insights with me! He lives by the 90/10 rule. Only 10% of what you do counts…90% of what you ARE or WHO you are becoming is more important. So learning how to build your character or understanding what the level of people around you. Thinking about this scenario from a different perspective, Byron Katie talks about the 90/10 rule in reference to the way you respond to life circumstances. “10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.”
How you react severely determines the makeup of your character! Think about this… Who are you really? Do you like that person? Are you willing to change the dynamic of who that person is to take your life to the next level?
“Be A Boss”
Move Beyond You To Be YOU!
What are you willing to risk to become YOU?
- Be You! Burlesque
This weekend I had a chance to see “Burlesque,” with Cher and Christina Aguilera. Needless to say the movie was awesome and sexy. At the same time, the movie spoke volumes about breaking beyond yourself to become yourself and live your purpose. When asked why Christina came from Iowa to New York City she said,
“I didn’t see anyone in that town who’s life I wanted.”
When you arrive to a place in your life where ONLY purpose matters…you will have to leave your current existence behind to create the life you know you are destined to have. You might have to get up and go to a land you are not familiar with! You will be scared! You will be hesitant and apprehensive — but GO! There is a family of people who have what you need to make it to the next level!
Christina saw her dream and pursued it like a lost lover. Pushing past severe roadblocks and LOADS of no’s ….she kept going and became her Destiny! Some may believe that this is just a movie meant for the characters on the screen. Yet, if you look closer you will see yourself and your hearts desire calling your name! The road to you will NOT be easy but very worth it! Keep going! You are bound to win!
Be Them…
Don’t quit! Keep moving beyond yourself to the person God has called you to be. Inside of yourself you know exactly who THAT person IS! Become THEM! Sherita Searcy
Commit To Yourself…
Last year this time my life was not in a great place. I knew 2010 would be challenging, but I didn’t expect what I got! Around 4 months ago…I told the Lord I was fed up with life and if he did not have a purpose for me to just allow me to die! I wanted to commit suicide, because I felt I had no reason to continue living! God asked…”Are you ready now?” I just said ..”Yes”
I made a choice to re-enter journalism part-time (putting my speaking career on hold)..and venture further into my skill in graphic design full-time! I just made a descision to be consistent no matter what happened! I set a schedule and maintained it …no matter how much I didn’t feel like doing it!
Fast forward to this week — I hit #1 Graphic Designer on Fiverr.com, secured several corporate contracts and created an inspirational T-shirt that is flying off the shelf! That is NOT the exciting part!
The gift came in the form of me loving and forgiving myself…. forgiving and releasing my father and mother from the life I “thought I should have had” but never recieved from them. I let it go! I am reconciling a broken and painful relationship with my ex-husband so we can be better parents to our children. Clarification: Reconcilation doesn’t nessasarily mean you re-enter an intimate relationship with that person…you just work things out peaceably as possible for the greater good of those involved.
God is good because he pursues us and brings us back to Him. I am rich in spirit and soon those riches will be manifested physically! I don’t know what you are going through, but trust your process! Continue to remember who you are and why you are here…in time you will be posting your story too!
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Emotional Vunerability
For so many years I tried to hide my true self to others out of a desparate need of wanting to appear perfect. Yet it was my imperfections that shined brighter than anything. I wrote numerous journal entries to myself – reminding me of who I REALLY am and the person I AM supposed to be. I am emotionally vunerable right now. An inspirational/motivational woman who did not have the guts to believe in her own self. I don’t beat myself over the head for it, but I also realize it is a very big part of who I was and what I am NOW moving from. I am not where I used to be — but I am NOT where I want to be either. I have friends who are HIV positive and I hear about how they have to “disclose their status to their potential partners.” I feel the same about my future relationship. In my next relationship, I will tell HIM ….I suffer with Borderline Personality Disorder and Passive Aggressive Disorder, which at times will make me fear abandonment and push myself esteem into the ground. I will follow it with…. I can’t make any promises from day to day, but I am working on being a better me — so I can be a better friend/lover/companion for you and others.
We fear emotional vunerability because it puts in the heart of our weaknesses. When we flow past our fears something happens to the negativity engrained in our brilliant minds — it dissipates. It goes away! I don’t know what the future holds, but I am praying for greener grass. Day by day — this walk will get easier. My bags are packed and I’m headed to other side of the fence.
Riding The Wave
People tend to freak out when others talk about “energy” “aura” or “vibrations.” These words are not apart of our everyday vocabulary, yet they are the very make up of who we are. Understanding the essence of energy allowed me to understand how I was dealing in relationship with others in addition to the direction my life was headed in. Before I explain further, let me say this, “we attract who we are — where we are.” Though our hearts desire may be to attract all that appears good and right in our eyes — in reality we attract what we don’t want.
In the past, I created a list of things I wanted to avoid in an associate/business partner or mate — instead of jotting down what I admire in them. I also concentrated heavily on the list of things I did not want and I got it! Another big problem I encountered was trying to control how, when, where and why. The human in me wanted to track down a friend/business partner/mate who would not “hurt me.” This is a very laughable thought since the premise of love and every human experience is sacrifice, discipline, commitment, which every so often leads to pain. When you evaluate the premise of pain, you have to understand it is a growth mechanism. No matter how positive you try to make your world — you are going to encounter bouts of negativity. You can not have the yin without the yang. Yet, it is when you allow that pain to transform you from good to great — that makes all the difference.
Recently, I sat down and made a very short list of things I want to take action on. I realize focused energy is better than scattered energy. All things considered I had to ask myself the following questions:
- What do I want to accomplish?
- Who embraces my journey?
- Where do I want to end up?
The How does NOT matter — because the desire is there. Answering these questions helped me to gain clarity. Now I am positioning my actions to CREATE my reality. I don’t have to repeat the lessons of yesterday. I don’t have to keep asking for God (Spirit) to bring me to this reality — because I am already there. The ENERGY to create is surrounding every action I am taking in theses moments. Now it is time to manifest all that is possible. The minute I stop trying to CONTROL….and GO with the FLOW — things seem to just happen. Energy can be your friend if you understand how it works. I don’t need to be afraid to take action. If I allow this to halt my progress — I am essentially saying I am AFRAID to “go with the FLOW of what is natural.” ”I am afraid to be ME.” What is most interesting is the level of seed dropping that happens before you actually gain the strengths to take the next step.
This blog feels a bit scatterbrained, so…I might have to take a look at my thought process and revamp it.
To Be Continued……
Beyond Our Differences- The Documentary
“Beyond our differences, we are people of FAITH,” Beyond Our Differences
“We have the same goal and the same message to create a better human being,” The Dalai Lama.
At a time where we are all questioning who God is and what is his ultimate plan for humanity, in our search we always try to validate our thoughts and feelings. Raised a Christian, I always thought it was unfair that God would only limit his love, peace and grace to those who would accept him by being “saved.” As a little girl, I would always ask my mother….”so what would happen if someone is a foreign land never had a chance to hear about God — they would never have a chance to be saved.” Growing up, I thought about my position and I needed a more valid answer outside of what I was getting. Today, I found the answer to my question — God is bigger than my box.
God is love. God is patient. God is understanding. God is grace. God is accountability. God is hope. God is faith. God is respect. God is around us. God is IN us. God IS.
Watch this movie. Buy this movie. Share this movie with a friend. Clarity will surly come. www.beyondourdifferences.com
“Be Kind To Your Mind”
So often we try to cram our worlds into a can in hopes of producing a platter of delight — only to find that we continue to serve up a heap of tasteless crap. It does not sound appealing huh? Well, that is exactly what we do when we think we are able to take on monstrous task in one day.
Over the past couple of weeks, I have been making aggressive changes to my website. In times past, I would try to do it in one day and then end up disconnecting with its original intent. Then I took a chance to slow down this month to really understand the purpose behind what I was doing and it all clicked. I then realized it would be a work in progress and I would have to piece the puzzle together bit by bit. Not even realizing it — I was starting to “Be Kind To My Mind.” The mind is very sensitive and it begs to be coaxed into change.
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Cool Quotes
“Ignorance is expensive.” by Sherita Searcy
“When you make up your mind…THE mind will create a truckload of reasons why you CAN’T before it will accept the fact that YOU WILL…” Sherita Searcy
“The true mark of a leader is one who is able to consistently follow without an alternate agenda. Be the leader you would follow. Follow the leader you would be.” Sherita Searcy
“God’s heart is manifested through relationships.” Sherita Searcy
“Love is about letting go.” Sherita Searcy
“Defeat the devil in YOUR mind FIRST…and you will realize the devil in others will cease to exist.” Sherita Searcy
I’m Breathing…
The road to purpose will never become clear until you make the connection. Andrea Brown-Clarke , CEO of What’s Your Inspiration always encourages her clients to Breathe. After taking note of that word it begin to translate into a true meaning for me.
When a child comes into the world it does not become a part of the human experience until it takes its first breath. Imagine the anticipation a parent must feel after birthing a child and going through insourmountable hours of labor only to hear the doctor say, “Miss your child is not breathing.” Getting a new born to take its first breath requires an extraction of mucus, water, blood, etc from its throat before the first breath can be taken. Once a clear path is established, the child’s lungs expands and the whining symphony ensues.
Birthing one’s purpose is no different. I came through an emergent (birthing) process, yet I was not breathing. I was trying to experience the birthing of my purpose with “mucus, water and blood” filling my lungs and I begin to suffocate. My lungs were filled with my isolated thoughts, feelings and emotions.
Knowing
“Everything I want to do, I already do — now I just have to do it better,” Sherita Searcy
Addicted to Your Addiction
The natural highs and lows of life is no longer our drug of choice, instead self-inflicted cheap ventures are the chief options leaving us emptily wanting for more.
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Recently I observed a friend of mine who became consistently agitated by receiving phone calls in the early hours of the morning by the mother of his son. She would ask him to do odd things like walking her through the process of hooking up the VCR to the TV. The two are no longer together, yet his son is here – hence he believes he needs to tend to the needs of the mother of his child. Nightly, I observed him transform from a happy go lucky guy to a restless and disgruntled brut as he pushed the talk button on his cell phone. Curious, I asked him, “Why do you continue to take these calls if you know it makes you this upset?” He answered, “She needs me and I can’t let my son down.” I pondered the thought for a while and it led me to a core conclusion. He was addicted to the joy and pain associated with the phone calls he received from his ex. The desire to feel significant and needed over road his feelings of agitation and discontentment. He was therefore more than willing to exchange the pain discomfort for the joy of being needed. (more…)
Excellence From The Bottom
We are growing through our age of anxiety. Lately I’ve heard looming reports of swine flu, Iraq deaths, lay offs and utter despair spawning from all corners of the earth. It is so difficult not to get caught up in the horror stories of a deafening recession, but it is here and very much a live in every facet of the current human existence. The word alone brings feelings of isolation, poverty, hopelessness and despair. Yet, in the midst of what should be a seemingly rough era, many people are taking opportunities to reclaim their life and start over from scratch and I am not immune.
With unexpected job cuts here, I too have been forced to re-evaluate my own life. In regrouping I found a treasure. I embraced an old tradition of putting first things first and taking stock in the smallest moments of life and making them phenomenal. We rarely evaluate the small things, because the bigger things in life seem to matter most when we are stressed and overwhelmed. Friends, it is not until we consciously make an effort to stop and look at the smaller picture and work our way from the bottom, that we can see and embrace the bigger giants ahead.
Excellence from the bottom can be achieved in the most simplistic manner imaginable. Perform a small task that will give you a sense of accomplishment, ex., washing the dishes, writing a short story, starting a blog, taking a bubble bath, walking the dog, etc. Start the task and keep at it until it is finished. Grab a journal and jot down the way you feel based on getting through your small challenge. Repeat the process with another task. These tasks may seem so minimal to the average person. Yet, when you accomplish one task after another, you will begin to feel like you have conquered something phenomenal by doing a collection of small things. Once you have achieved this feat, you will begin to see larger tasks in a more condensed framework.
We do not have to be overwhelmed by the blow of this recession if we understand how to navigate our happiness. Starting and completing small task is one of many things you can do to fuel your emotional gas tank. You may also want to try reaching out to people you are not familiar with, also giving and serving other people in a way that is life transformative, will also do the trick. Most importantly, take one step at a time, pace yourself and brace yourself for the best! You can be excellent from the bottom – start today!
Insecurity through Mediocrity is Unattractive
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A few years ago, I met a man that at first glance seemed to be the total package. He was clean cut, the CEO of his own company, highly intelligent, a mover and shaker in the community and fine as can be. His aurora oozed excellence and I wanted to be apart of his world, if for nothing more than to just to know such a distinguished gentleman. I had a chance to catch his attention and we scheduled a time to converse over coffee. The meeting day arrived and I showed to the coffee shop a little early to catch up on some reading. Not paying attention, a gentleman walked to the table and plopped down in the chair and said, “Hey girl, what’s up?” I looked up and did a double take, because I felt like I was meeting a total stranger. His beard was over grown, his tennis shoes were dingy and run down, his posture was slouchy and his conversation was filled with comments of insecurity and doubt. The meeting ended cordially and I did not hear from that gentleman again.
A few days ago, I had a meeting with the CEO of another company who expressed to me the same sentiments. “Sherita you exhibit greatness, but I can’t tell. You must walk in total confidence of who you are and what you have to offer the world. No matter what you do, don’t ever shy away from being you.” The words stung my heart and my mind momentarily wandered back to that meeting with the frazzled CEO. You attract who you are and who you want to be, and I am no different.
We all possess the ability to be and do great things. Often times fear holds us back from stepping up to the plate and offering ourselves to the world. In an attempt to shield away from our own flaws, we so often point out the dirt in someone else’s eye that “we believe” may be serving in a less than capacity and point the finger. Yet the three fingers pointing back at us can often times reveal an ugly but real truth. When you become the leader you would follow you realize that insecurity through mediocrity on any level is unattractive. Pretending to be someone you’re not leads people to believe you are just a “wanna-be” seeking for moments of self gratification and attention. In self honesty, if you profess to be at the bottom striving for the top then others are more apt to help you get there quicker.
Put away the mask that shields the heart of who you are. Stop pretending to be someone your not. Take time to realize that you have beautiful human flaws that may never be changed. Maybe then you can roll in the confidence of you just being you without question. Insecurity is a dirty blanket that breeds bacteria of self doubt, insecurity and worthlessness. Start from the bottom and make your way to the top, by admitting who you are, where you are and where you are going!
Today, I am no different than the CEO I met at first site or at the coffee shop. Yet, excitement consumes me because I know I am a strong woman who possess the ability to be on the bottom – making my way to the top all while shedding pounds of insecurity. Choose to take off the mask of insecurity today so we can walk up the ladder to personal greatness together.
Freedom
“The freedom of life is not constrained by your thoughts and actions on how it is supposed to be, but by simply flowing in what is.” Sherita Searcy
Starving
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This morning I woke up hungry and ready to eat. As I slowly approached the refrigerator the reality of what my options were made my stomach growl even louder. I had three boxes of cereal with no milk. My mind began to search for heftier options like scrambled eggs, toast, hash browns and a tall glass of orange juice. I knew this would be a meal that would surely satisfy my hunger. Yet, reality shook my fantasy again and said No! None of those options were available. I faced the truth that this morning I would unintentionally fast. Slipping into a new line of thinking, I begin to see how this physical manifestation of “starvation,” was a forecast of what has been happening in my life holistically.
In essence, I am broke(n). The moment of manifested starvation, made me realize I had nothing to offer myself. My resources were low and there was no one around to “carry my load.” Sure, I could have borrowed food from my neighbor, visited a local food pantry, or even scrapped up a couple bucks and went grocery shopping. All of these options would have sufficed. Yet, in the same rite I would have momentarily satisfied my hunger only to be left reeling with the same options of nothingness in the morning.
When you are starving in life, where do you turn? What are your options? So often, I have turned to “fast food” options to satisfy insatiable hungers. These quick fix “fast food” options of life are called distractions.
“Distraction: the illusory expectation of some fulfillment, which in the end is only human loneliness,” A Year with Thomas Merton, Johnathan Montaldo.
Life distractions come in the form of doing insignificant things to past time, drinking, taking drugs, having excessive sex, gossiping on the phone about other people, shopping in debt, overspending, etc. At what point in life do you decide you are not going to starve anymore? When you loose your job? When you husband/wife leaves you? When your kids push you to the side? When your boss says you are not worthy enough? When your mother/father dies? When do you come to a breaking point of saying enough is enough?
I came to my breaking point this morning when I realized I needed more than a quick fix for the day. I choose to wake up every morning and have the option to “cook and eat” whatever I want. In times past, what has satisfied my hungers most is sitting in quite solitude, talking to God and resting in his request. When I let the worries of the world flow out of my mind and just be myself, things seemed to be much easier. More and more I am leaning toward that hefty serving everyday. Maybe tomorrow’s meal options will be more satisfying.
What are you hungry for today?
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