July 10, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
“Ignorance is expensive.” by Sherita Searcy
“When you make up your mind…THE mind will create a truckload of reasons why you CAN’T before it will accept the fact that YOU WILL…” Sherita Searcy
“The true mark of a leader is one who is able to consistently follow without an alternate agenda. Be the leader you would follow. Follow the leader you would be.” Sherita Searcy
“God’s heart is manifested through relationships.” Sherita Searcy
“Love is about letting go.” Sherita Searcy
“Defeat the devil in YOUR mind FIRST…and you will realize the devil in others will cease to exist.” Sherita Searcy
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July 3, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
The road to purpose will never become clear until you make the connection. Andrea Brown-Clarke , CEO of What’s Your Inspiration always encourages her clients to Breathe. After taking note of that word it begin to translate into a true meaning for me.
When a child comes into the world it does not become a part of the human experience until it takes its first breath. Imagine the anticipation a parent must feel after birthing a child and going through insourmountable hours of labor only to hear the doctor say, “Miss your child is not breathing.” Getting a new born to take its first breath requires an extraction of mucus, water, blood, etc from its throat before the first breath can be taken. Once a clear path is established, the child’s lungs expands and the whining symphony ensues.
Birthing one’s purpose is no different. I came through an emergent (birthing) process, yet I was not breathing. I was trying to experience the birthing of my purpose with “mucus, water and blood” filling my lungs and I begin to suffocate. My lungs were filled with my isolated thoughts, feelings and emotions.
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June 12, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
“Everything I want to do, I already do — now I just have to do it better,” Sherita Searcy
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May 20, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
The natural highs and lows of life is no longer our drug of choice, instead self-inflicted cheap ventures are the chief options leaving us emptily wanting for more.
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Recently I observed a friend of mine who became consistently agitated by receiving phone calls in the early hours of the morning by the mother of his son. She would ask him to do odd things like walking her through the process of hooking up the VCR to the TV. The two are no longer together, yet his son is here – hence he believes he needs to tend to the needs of the mother of his child. Nightly, I observed him transform from a happy go lucky guy to a restless and disgruntled brut as he pushed the talk button on his cell phone. Curious, I asked him, “Why do you continue to take these calls if you know it makes you this upset?” He answered, “She needs me and I can’t let my son down.” I pondered the thought for a while and it led me to a core conclusion. He was addicted to the joy and pain associated with the phone calls he received from his ex. The desire to feel significant and needed over road his feelings of agitation and discontentment. He was therefore more than willing to exchange the pain discomfort for the joy of being needed. Continue Reading »
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May 19, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
We are growing through our age of anxiety. Lately I’ve heard looming reports of swine flu, Iraq deaths, lay offs and utter despair spawning from all corners of the earth. It is so difficult not to get caught up in the horror stories of a deafening recession, but it is here and very much a live in every facet of the current human existence. The word alone brings feelings of isolation, poverty, hopelessness and despair. Yet, in the midst of what should be a seemingly rough era, many people are taking opportunities to reclaim their life and start over from scratch and I am not immune.
With unexpected job cuts here, I too have been forced to re-evaluate my own life. In regrouping I found a treasure. I embraced an old tradition of putting first things first and taking stock in the smallest moments of life and making them phenomenal. We rarely evaluate the small things, because the bigger things in life seem to matter most when we are stressed and overwhelmed. Friends, it is not until we consciously make an effort to stop and look at the smaller picture and work our way from the bottom, that we can see and embrace the bigger giants ahead.
Excellence from the bottom can be achieved in the most simplistic manner imaginable. Perform a small task that will give you a sense of accomplishment, ex., washing the dishes, writing a short story, starting a blog, taking a bubble bath, walking the dog, etc. Start the task and keep at it until it is finished. Grab a journal and jot down the way you feel based on getting through your small challenge. Repeat the process with another task. These tasks may seem so minimal to the average person. Yet, when you accomplish one task after another, you will begin to feel like you have conquered something phenomenal by doing a collection of small things. Once you have achieved this feat, you will begin to see larger tasks in a more condensed framework.
We do not have to be overwhelmed by the blow of this recession if we understand how to navigate our happiness. Starting and completing small task is one of many things you can do to fuel your emotional gas tank. You may also want to try reaching out to people you are not familiar with, also giving and serving other people in a way that is life transformative, will also do the trick. Most importantly, take one step at a time, pace yourself and brace yourself for the best! You can be excellent from the bottom – start today!
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May 9, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
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A few years ago, I met a man that at first glance seemed to be the total package. He was clean cut, the CEO of his own company, highly intelligent, a mover and shaker in the community and fine as can be. His aurora oozed excellence and I wanted to be apart of his world, if for nothing more than to just to know such a distinguished gentleman. I had a chance to catch his attention and we scheduled a time to converse over coffee. The meeting day arrived and I showed to the coffee shop a little early to catch up on some reading. Not paying attention, a gentleman walked to the table and plopped down in the chair and said, “Hey girl, what’s up?” I looked up and did a double take, because I felt like I was meeting a total stranger. His beard was over grown, his tennis shoes were dingy and run down, his posture was slouchy and his conversation was filled with comments of insecurity and doubt. The meeting ended cordially and I did not hear from that gentleman again.
A few days ago, I had a meeting with the CEO of another company who expressed to me the same sentiments. “Sherita you exhibit greatness, but I can’t tell. You must walk in total confidence of who you are and what you have to offer the world. No matter what you do, don’t ever shy away from being you.” The words stung my heart and my mind momentarily wandered back to that meeting with the frazzled CEO. You attract who you are and who you want to be, and I am no different.
We all possess the ability to be and do great things. Often times fear holds us back from stepping up to the plate and offering ourselves to the world. In an attempt to shield away from our own flaws, we so often point out the dirt in someone else’s eye that “we believe” may be serving in a less than capacity and point the finger. Yet the three fingers pointing back at us can often times reveal an ugly but real truth. When you become the leader you would follow you realize that insecurity through mediocrity on any level is unattractive. Pretending to be someone you’re not leads people to believe you are just a “wanna-be” seeking for moments of self gratification and attention. In self honesty, if you profess to be at the bottom striving for the top then others are more apt to help you get there quicker.
Put away the mask that shields the heart of who you are. Stop pretending to be someone your not. Take time to realize that you have beautiful human flaws that may never be changed. Maybe then you can roll in the confidence of you just being you without question. Insecurity is a dirty blanket that breeds bacteria of self doubt, insecurity and worthlessness. Start from the bottom and make your way to the top, by admitting who you are, where you are and where you are going!
Today, I am no different than the CEO I met at first site or at the coffee shop. Yet, excitement consumes me because I know I am a strong woman who possess the ability to be on the bottom – making my way to the top all while shedding pounds of insecurity. Choose to take off the mask of insecurity today so we can walk up the ladder to personal greatness together.
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May 4, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
“The freedom of life is not constrained by your thoughts and actions on how it is supposed to be, but by simply flowing in what is.” Sherita Searcy
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May 4, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
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This morning I woke up hungry and ready to eat. As I slowly approached the refrigerator the reality of what my options were made my stomach growl even louder. I had three boxes of cereal with no milk. My mind began to search for heftier options like scrambled eggs, toast, hash browns and a tall glass of orange juice. I knew this would be a meal that would surely satisfy my hunger. Yet, reality shook my fantasy again and said No! None of those options were available. I faced the truth that this morning I would unintentionally fast. Slipping into a new line of thinking, I begin to see how this physical manifestation of “starvation,” was a forecast of what has been happening in my life holistically.
In essence, I am broke(n). The moment of manifested starvation, made me realize I had nothing to offer myself. My resources were low and there was no one around to “carry my load.” Sure, I could have borrowed food from my neighbor, visited a local food pantry, or even scrapped up a couple bucks and went grocery shopping. All of these options would have sufficed. Yet, in the same rite I would have momentarily satisfied my hunger only to be left reeling with the same options of nothingness in the morning.
When you are starving in life, where do you turn? What are your options? So often, I have turned to “fast food” options to satisfy insatiable hungers. These quick fix “fast food” options of life are called distractions.
“Distraction: the illusory expectation of some fulfillment, which in the end is only human loneliness,” A Year with Thomas Merton, Johnathan Montaldo.
Life distractions come in the form of doing insignificant things to past time, drinking, taking drugs, having excessive sex, gossiping on the phone about other people, shopping in debt, overspending, etc. At what point in life do you decide you are not going to starve anymore? When you loose your job? When you husband/wife leaves you? When your kids push you to the side? When your boss says you are not worthy enough? When your mother/father dies? When do you come to a breaking point of saying enough is enough?
I came to my breaking point this morning when I realized I needed more than a quick fix for the day. I choose to wake up every morning and have the option to “cook and eat” whatever I want. In times past, what has satisfied my hungers most is sitting in quite solitude, talking to God and resting in his request. When I let the worries of the world flow out of my mind and just be myself, things seemed to be much easier. More and more I am leaning toward that hefty serving everyday. Maybe tomorrow’s meal options will be more satisfying.
What are you hungry for today?
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April 29, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
Excuse the website jumble …
We are building its framework. In the meantime, enjoy previous blog articles written by Sherita Searcy!
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April 28, 2009 by Sherita Searcy
Taming the Scatter Brain
“Being a bit scattered tends to be a trait of highly imaginative people.”
“Faith helps to focus the mind. Having a broad mind makes one scatterbrained and mentally tossed from one new fad to another without direction and without solid ground.”
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Learning how to focus can sometimes be difficult if your mind is in 15 different places at one time. One thing we can all benefit from is learning new ways to stay focused and accomplish our goals. Take a second and jot down these key points on steps to eliminate the scatter brain syndrome.
- Have a Specific Plan for Each Day
- Create Small To-Do List 3 to 4 Specific Tasks
Minimize Distractions
- If the phone rings, don’t answer it, unless it is an important phone call.
- Save television and internet surfing as rewards for completing the tasks you want to do.
- Stop Multi-tasking
- Multi-tasking keeps your brain going in too many directions.
- Take Breaks
- During your five to ten minute breaks, spend some time meditating and clearing your mind.
- Minimize Stress
- The two best natural antidotes to stress are sleep and exercise.
- Keep an Accomplishment Journal
- An accomplishment journal helps you focus on what you did do, instead of what you didn’t.
Information and Resource from this article was partly used by:
Life Coach Lori Radun, Scatter Brain Syndrome
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